Since today is OFFICIALLY the first day of Fall (insert squeal of excitement), I thought it’s time to share some fun fall nursing snacks and baby treats. I mean, PSL can only get us so far (and it DOES get us far), but they do nothing for our babies. So, I wanted to find fall-themed baby foods & snacks that can make our (most of us) favorite season, fun for mama AND baby. If you’re anything like me, as the leaves change, the temps drop, and pumpkin patches open, I can’t help but feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Lets just be honest, I LIVE FOR FALL—A LOT of us LIVE FOR FALL.
First things first, I was out on Pinterest and came across these delicious Pumpkin Pie Energy Balls for nursing mamas. Umm, yes please! I will be whipping up a batch of these from my new friend, Modern Homestead Mama. These balls of deliciousness include brewer’s yeast which is GREAT for nursing mamas. They also include pumpkin puree and peanut butter, along with some other great things. I’ll include a recipe for homemade pumpkin puree in this post also. Simply because sometimes all the pumpkin excitement just makes us want to whip up something from scratch AND if your grocery store is anything like ours, they run out of canned pumpkin FAST in the fall. For the entire recipe, click here.
Pureed Pumpkin (for baby food and anything else that calls for pumpkin puree)
There’s 2 ways to do it. I prefer the Instant Pot simply because it cuts everything in half and I love using it. The other way is in the oven. Both included below:
½ cup of water at the bottom of the bowl
2 lb (sugar or cooking) pumpkin placed on the rack
Set to 14 minutes. Once finished, turn valve to quick release. Remove and let cool. The pumpkin “shell” should easily peel off. Scrape the insides out and blend in any blender or immersion blender.
Set to 350 degrees.
Cut pumpkin into quarters and place in a baking dish. Roast 45-50 minutes, or until tender. When finished and cooled, scrape the pumpkin and blend with any blender or immersion blender. All pumpkin puree can be stored in refrigerator for 3-4 days or frozen.
Pumpkin Pie Baby Food Puree’
Pumpkin Pie Spice
Blend and store in air tight container.
Fall Trail Mix
Roasted Pumpkin Seeds
Fall Colored M&Ms OR Candy Corn OR Candy Corn Pumpkins
Optional (Goldfish, popcorn, etc.)
Mix together. Awesome for favors for Fall Parties, etc.
Pumpkin Spice Smoothie
2 frozen bananas
1 cup of almond milk
½ cup of oatmeal OR 2 tbsp of Chia Seeds
¼ tsp Pumpkin Pie Spice
1 ½ TBSP of honey or maple syrup to sweeten
Optional * Add scoop of vanilla protein powder or collagen
Blend and enjoy
Perfectly Roasted Pumpkin Seeds
Clean out 1-2 pumpkins by scraping all the insides out and removing the seeds.
Clean the seeds well by placing them in your colander. Your goal is no slime.
Soak your seeds in a bowl of cold water for at least a half hour. Once drained, boil water and boil your pumpkin seeds for 10 minutes. This ensures that they’re cooked on the inside so you’ll have yummy, crisp, pumpkin seeds.
Toss with olive oil, Seasoned salt, regular salt and a dash of paprika *Optional*
Spread out on a cookie sheet and bake, checking every 10 minutes and flipping. Seeds should be done no longer than 40 minutes.
Caramel Apple Slices
Core 3-4 red apples of your choice, leave skin on.
Slice in circles from the top to the bottom so they’re in a O shape.
Use premade caramel or your favorite caramel recipe and put caramel on top of the apple slices.
Let sit so caramel won’t be as drippy.
Add sprinkles or nuts.
These are easier for kiddos to enjoy after school.
What are your favorite Fall, family friendly snacks?
Sharing is caring within reason of course. Compliments, great tips, and even advice when asked, are all wonderful things moms can do for a fellow mom. However, dark clouds can roll in quick when certain things that never should be said, are said.
“It’s okay, it’s your first.”
First child or ninth, every mother can endure ups and downs. No child is the same and no matter how experienced you are, you can be faced with firsts even with a second or third birth. This gets said a lot by veteran moms who assume they have collected all the knowledge of motherhood, and although some are trying to be helpful, they still should NEVER assume you are incapable or struggling. We all have rough, off days so NEVER suggest one momma knows more than another based on status.
“Are those still your maternity clothes?”
Wowzers! Yes this was said to a friend of mine. First, keep in mind that it takes months to grow and care for the little bundle(s) of joy, so you don’t lose the weight in a week. Some women bounce back super quick, sure, but keep in mind that we are all different. Personally, I still wear my maternity tops because they are Uber comfy and make for nice, roomy breastfeeding shirts.
“Congratulations on your pregnancy.”
Yup, and that was to the lady who struggled to drop the baby weight and was NOT pregnant. I learned how hard it is to accomplish things with a baby as a first time mommy. Working out is not on the top of the list--sleep is. For some women, taking time off from the gym to focus on the baby, is priority. Rule of thumb, even if you think she is pregnant, never assume, and let them tell you.
“You went out with friends? Who watched that poor baby?”
This one is not only rude, but personally offensive. Why can’t a mother take a night off and meet up with friends? Why can’t a mother step away from her full-time mommy job to just get dolled up for a few hours and do something minus baby. Yes, baby will be ok, and eat, sleep, and poop without mommy. I know personally when I went on my first date night that I couldn’t wait to get back to my little one, but it was nice to spend time with my husband and eat with two hands versus one.
“What do you mean you don’t want visitors right now?”
Okay, when a baby is first born, there are many important things to take in consideration and one important one is limiting visitors. Newborns have weak immune systems AND they need to get acquainted to mommy and daddy. Also, both parents are extremely tired and mommy is recovering from a major experience so the last thing they want is constant visitors. I know my little one wasn’t a fan of a lot of stimulation and with breastfeeding, I would feed on demand and he would nap. The last thing I wanted was to have him eat and then keep him up. Some forget that when babies skip their nap and they (visitors) go home, baby will become extra cranky for already tired parents.
Moral of the story is that yes, advice is nice to give, but when asked. Don’t assume anything in life, and the birth of a baby is beyond magical, so let the parents enjoy it and eventually you will too.
Wait, what is “me time”? Ha! Just kidding…. but in all seriousness, as mommas we tend to focus solely on our babes and sometimes neglect ourselves. I know for me, it often feels selfish to do something for myself now that I am caring for my daughter, but it is important to remember that self-care is what enables us to care for our children. If we don’t take care of ourselves then how will we have the energy to take care of the littles (think about the signs on airplanes that instruct the adult to put the mask on before trying to help a child)? There is nothing wrong with a little “me time” and I really encourage you to find something that makes you feel like a human being every once in a while, and treat yourself! I Like most, I am a momma on a budget, so these 5 ideas are all inexpensive and don’t take up too much time!
There will always be things that I wish I had time for and being a mom will always feel like a balancing act, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t ever take any time for yourself. Find someone to help you out for a few hours a week and do some things that make you happy. Remember that in order to take care of others, you must take care of yourself. Now, grab a glass of wine and get in a bubble bath Momma!
Today's post comes from travel blogger, Tavia Carlson, founder of Big Brave Nomad. If you don't follow her check her out, she's a super mom trekking through 10 countries and 18 states with her two little ones in tow. When we read her recent blog post on traveling with breastmilk we had to steal it! Ok, we didn't actually steal it, Tavia was gracious enough to want to share it with all of you amazing mamas! Weather you're on the road or flying with breastmilk, Tavia's advice on travel is invaluable ...
Something we have had to deal with time and again is transporting breast milk either in a checked bag or carry on. Both of our kids were/are breastfed. There were times that we knew we would need a stash of milk upon arrival (for a babysitter), but there wouldn't be time to store up enough before we needed it. I have put together several resources and tips for breastfeeding mothers who need or want to travel without worrying about their baby's breastmilk.
Women have been shipping breastmilk for a long time. It isn't new, but there also isn't a ton of information out there. Here are some convenient ways to ship your breastmilk if you are going to be separated from your baby due to travel or if you want a stockpile waiting for you upon arrival.
Flying with Breastmilk - Carry-On:
The TSA (within the United States) allows "a reasonable amount" of breastmilk to be carried through whether a mother is with her child or not. I personally flew with about 60 ounces of frozen milk in my carry on WITHOUT my baby from Nashville to Florida and no one (TSA) questioned it. You can see the exact rules outlined HERE. Other countries are not as lenient. We saw in 2016 when a woman was made to dump 500 ounces of breastmilk at the Heathrow airport because her baby was not with her. She had over 100ml (3 ounces) of milk in her carry on. The regulations in the European Union are strict about not having more than 3 ounces of Breastmilk in a CLEAR container if you do not have your baby with you. Knowing the international rules is imperative. Had she known, she could have frozen, prepacked in ice, and checked all of her hard earned milk.
Flying with Breastmilk - Checked:
I have packed frozen milk into a small cooler with ice packs then packed the cooler in my luggage and checked it. The flights were domestic and the milk was still fully frozen upon arrival. I was able to then put them in the freezer and have them for babysitters. This is much less risky than carrying large amounts of milk as a carry-on. If you package your milk appropriately, it will last the duration of your travel and be ready for baby upon arrival. If you will be traveling for longer than 24-36 hours, I recommend checking out these breastmilk packing tips HERE. For shorter travel days (8-10 hours), I have had no problem packing my milk with ice packs in small cooler. There is no limit to the amount of milk checked through.
Roadtripping with Breastmilk:
In my opinion: this is the easiest way to travel with large amounts of breast milk. I recommend one of two ways to roadtrip with frozen breast milk.
If you're spending the night in a hotel on your road trip, bring the milk inside with you and if you can, put it in the freezer of the hotel!
You can find a convenient packing list for pumping on the go HERE.
You can find more information about traveling with breastmilk and recommendations to mothers on the CDC's webpage HERE.
You can find the proper temperatures and suggested guidelines about freezing/storing breastmilk HERE.
Find breastfeeding support at these locations:
With all things travel, don't be afraid of traveling while breastfeeding!! We have traveled to 10 countries while nursing. I found breastfeeding to be convenient on travels since we didn't have to carry snacks/babyfood.
**I would like to add that THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH FORMULA!!! A fed baby is the best baby! We fully support either way!**
Check out our previous guest blog on how Europe changed my breastfeeding experience!
Fly Brave, Travel Often, See Everything,
written by VHS contributor// Tavia Carlson
First of all, I suppose I should define FOMO: Fear of Missing Out. My dream has always been to be a stay at home mom and until I became one, I said that I would never have FOMO. I naively thought that all of my previous life would just melt away and I would be perfectly content just sitting at home all day/every day with my babies. And it did to some extent. But just because I want to be and am a stay at home mom and I enjoy it, doesn't mean that I don't miss being a young married person with less responsibility.
The first month of parenting was a challenge, which I expected, but I had no idea that I would feel so concerned with how my life used to be. It wasn't concern over not being able to go grab a drink with friends or anything like that, it was about the little things that nobody ever realizes will change after a baby. How would I get groceries? How many conversations will I not be a part of because I am in another room breastfeeding? Will I ever leave my house again, and what will others think of me if I bring my baby with me to everything? How could I possibly have time to shower and get ready in the morning? Will I ever be able to have lunch and run errands with my mom and sisters again? These thoughts can quickly become consuming, especially with a baby that struggles to breastfeed or a mom experiencing baby blues and/or Post-Partum Depression/Anxiety. As the weeks flew by, those feelings began to dissipate, and I realized that it is all about becoming acclimated to your "new normal". The best advice I can give a new parent with FOMO is as follows:
First of all, take a deep breath. This season will not last forever, and you had better believe it goes way too quickly! I would relive those newborn days a million times over just to have my daughter, Nora be that little again.... don’t get too caught up in reaching for the next season because this one will be gone before you know it!
Secondly, believe in yourself! You are capable of a lot more than you think you are and just because it seems impossible now, doesn't mean it will forever. It is easier said than done to put faith in yourself while caring for a helpless little human that you don't yet understand, but it will come and the more you trust your instinct, the sooner you will realize that God has gifted mommas with super powers!
Thirdly, trust your spouse/partner/support people. I personally spent (and still do spend) a lot of time struggling to relinquish that control that new moms so desperately try to grasp onto. It seems foreign to hand your baby over to someone who didn't experience the physical act of growing them with their body or the pain of childbirth, but that is what those people are there for. Let others help you and it will open your eyes to the fact that you aren't alone and won’t miss out on too much because they will be there to lend a hand when you finally leave the house or attempt that first grocery trip!
Lastly, take a breather from social media. I often grabbed my phone during my late-night breastfeeding sessions (not during the day when baby was more alert, and that bonding time is so important) and scrolled my feeds on Instagram and Facebook to help myself stay awake. Social media is a wonderful tool to stay in touch with others and keep up on important events and photos from people's lives, but it can quickly become consuming and start to make you feel poorly about yourself and your life. It always shocks me, the power it has over us, but I really notice that I feel better about myself, my family and my life in general if I don't sit and compare it to others all the time. This isn't to say that you have to disappear from it altogether or delete those apps off of your phone - but be conscious of how it is making you feel every time you scroll through and begrudgingly like a photo.
It is okay to miss life before becoming a parent, it doesn't make you a bad mom or dad. Those feelings are completely normal and will subside over time. Be present in the moment you have before you and don't spend too much time looking back. Find ways to incorporate your "old life" into your new one with your baby. And don't get too settled in because before you know it, another baby could be on the way :)
Don’t rely on sleep, eat really fast, and enjoy drinking and eating cold everything.
Okay, of course there is more, but for those with newborns, that quick intro is all you will ever read because most likely you fell asleep, went back to feeding little one, or didn’t read my Newbornism 101 when I mentioned that when baby sleeps, you sleep. I promise they will smile again, and they are not going to get up and walk at this age.
Step 1: balance
I can’t express how important it is to let go of the OCD chore-like mode one has established pre-baby. The Wild West dust balls will form, clothes will start to resemble a beanbag chair, and dishes will become a thing in the past as you invest in paper ones. Time starts from the minute baby heads to sleep and that’s the time you must catch up on sleep, not spring clean the house. Example: I’m writing this now while my baby is sleeping. Wise decision, eh, but think about the missed snooze fest time, which is more important than anything else. It will all get done somehow. Just stop balancing with the chores and get leveled with enough sleep and relaxation.
Step 2: sanity
I think after my first week, I started “losing it”. I was exhausted and at the same time my perfectionist hat would not come off. It was at that time that I had to have my husband take the baby from my arms as I started to fall asleep. As a mother, the last thing we want is to not be able to do our mom job, but eventually the lack of sleep + lack of food takes a toll. It’s hard to do everything to make baby happy when solo or like me, perfection mom. It’s super-duper ok to ask for help. Blurred vision and swaying when walking is a thing of your 20-year-old past. Yes, things will pile up and not get done, but if baby and mommy are sleeping and eating (mom maybe some leftover cracker on baby from before that you dropped) all will be ok.
Step 3: super speed
I was always fast when completing things from chores to laundry, but if you are not, get ready. Once you establish that first month, you realize that once baby goes down for a nap, you have 5-10 minutes to do whatever needs to get done so you can sleep too. I suggest shoving an Uncrustable in your mouth while showering, which will become the fastest shower in your life. If one can, forward flip out of shower into clothes. Now the fun part! Become a mission impossible spy as you air tip toe down what seems like a 400-foot hallway. Dodge every creaking floor board as you near the sleeping baby room. In my house, he’s still in our room in the bassinet, so I magically become liquid form and slither to my bed, then become a gas and float into bed. Science is pretty cool. Then if one hears a cry, maximize to super speed to plug their mouth with a pacifier to avoid them waking themselves up. Start training ladies, this will be a new Olympic sport.
All and all take my suggestions as you may, because like I always say, every baby is different, and each mom has a different super power. Whatever it be, the gift of becoming a mother is the most rewarding gift I’ve ever been given, alongside my La Mer to help keep lack of sleep eyes youthful 😂.
Enjoy each day to the fullest and enjoy your mommy hat!
Okay, Okay, the calendar may not read SUMMER just yet, but as soon as school’s out, it’s sweet summertime in my book. When the temps start rising, beach and pool bags start being filled, and more and more pools start opening up, it’s time to bust out the fruit bowls and fire up the grill. While all of that is fun and great, lets be honest, sometimes plain ole water just doesn’t cut it. I’m the first one to LOVE a big glass of iced water, but even that doesn’t always suffice in the summer heat. Last summer I was pregnant and this summer I’m a nursing mom which means I’m not able to put down the amount of caffeine I did once upon a time. I love all the iced drinks, lattes, coffee, frapps, etc. and now I’ve had to find some alternatives to beat the summer heat, but still enjoy a good drink aside from water. Of course, like many women, I took straight to Pinterest, a few friends, and my personal archive, to find some ideas and here’s what I came up with. Some are tried and true and some have yet to be tried, but they’re on the list because…. YUM! You’ll understand as you read….
This first one isn’t from Pinterest, it’s straight from Jens kitchen….
Homemade Strawberry Lemonade
(Yields 1 Gallon)
1 gallon of water
2 cups of sugar syrup*
8 oz lemon juice
Add to lemonade to infuse:
1 lemon sliced
a few strawberries
*make syrup by adding one cup of water to 2 cups of sugar in a saucepan. Heat on stove until sugar turns clear. Cool then add to lemonade mixture
Coconut Lime Cooler
(Photo from Tasteforlife.com)
This next one is a Coconut Lime Cooler and oh my goodness it looks great! I don’t know about you but anything Coconut screams “beach” and “summertime” to me. I’m sharing because I cannot wait to throw this one in the blender. It’s pretty simple, doesn’t include a ton of ingredients, and doesn’t require 20 steps to make it. That’s my kind of frothy, yummy drink.
Find the recipe HERE.
Decaffeinated Sweet Tea
(Photo AND recipe from mollysims.com)
Ya’ll I’m a Southern transplant. I wasn’t raised here, but once I stepped foot on the Tennessee soil back in 2013, I took in all that it had to offer and with that, I became a sweet tea lovin’ gal. I could LIVE off of sweet tea, but unless I want my son to literally bounce off the walls, mama had to replace her Regular Lipton bags (which is what the original recipe calls for), with some decaffeinated ones. There are obviously a million ways to make sweet tea, but Molly's is the one most like what I make.
Find the Recipe HERE.
My favorite way to carry any of these drinks is by using THIS! Seriously, it's huge. It's cute. It's convenient.
One of my most favorite things to keep in the fridge, especially in the summer, is infused water. It is seriously the most refreshing thing ever.
Here’s what I use:
Fill a pitcher full of cold water
Add fresh Mint, Ginger, Sliced Lemon, and Sliced Cucumber
Allow to sit for 6-8 hours before drinking
Decaffeinated Iced Coffee
This one is straight from me. I LOVE iced coffee. Let me be honest, I still drink SOME caffeine and some of us who LOVE caffeine, cringe at the word decaffeinated. I usually keep a 2-quart jar of this Iced Coffee in my fridge because at 3PM when I’m wanting Starbuck’s, but not wanting to fork out $4-5 for Iced Coffee, I can get it from my fridge. Also, 3PM is NOT the time to load up on caffeine while nursing. Unless you’re totally okay with your child being up all night which I AM NOT.
Find your favorite coffee (coarsely ground works best, but fine ground works just fine)
*My favorite coffee here
I make my iced coffee in a cold brew system like THIS (You can also do iced tea in this!)
Insert the filter that holds the grounds and add water, lift the filter until the water seaps out and repeat until the 2-quart jar is filled with water.
Place the lid on and let refrigerate for 24 hours.
*** Mix 1, 12 oz. can of evaporated milk and 1, 14 oz can of sweetened condensed milk. Put in container and store in fridge for up to a week.
Fill cup with ice, use preferred amount of sweet cream and add iced coffee. Stir and Enjoy!
(Photo and Recipe from Neverendingjourneys.com)
Want something that’ll make the whole fam dam happy and is PERFECT for the Summer party or a fun vacation treat? I found this on Pinterest and it’s called Hawaiian Punch. NOOOOO, It’s not the same as the stuff you buy at the store, well, it is, but it isn’t. It’s got an extra punch…. ;P... See what I did there?
Check out the recipe Here!
Yes, I know, this is a long post! But now there are plenty of delicious summertime options for you nursing mamas out there. I'm so excited to try the ones that I haven't tried yet, especially while laying around the pool this summer.
What are your favorite summer beverage recipes?
Welcome to Parenthood. Welcome to the sweet little coos, giggles, and adorable moments that you will embrace as a rookie or veteran parent. Now for my veterans, you know all about what I am going to write about when it comes to the first few days, to the first month. My rookie parents, here is the unedited, un-baby powered version of parenthood.
Baby’s job is to eat, sleep, and go to the bathroom. Your job is to not sleep, feed them, cuddle them, love them, and do your best to shield your face or in some cases your entire body from projectile fluids. Tiny tummies equal frequent feedings and if you are breastfeeding, prop up a pillow and try your best to levitate your child or invest in a Boppy. Some things that are super awesome when feeding your precious angel at 2am is when they start to roll back their eyes poltergeist style with the pure silence and darkness of the night and you’re sure to flashback every horror movie. When breastfeeding, if little one is ready to eat like a champ, sometimes if you don’t fully guide them toward your breast, they move their little heads so quickly as if they were little kittens and you were moving a red laser light back and forth super quick. Don’t forget it is 2am, you were just up 2.5-3 hours ago, and most likely your partner is next to you snoring.
Newborns eat often and need frequent diaper changes. In the beginning, those that lack experience will have so much fun when it comes to lava or mud explosions. The first sign of trouble can be in the form of a warm or wet feeling when holding baby. This simply means you didn’t secure the diaper correctly or what came out just didn’t fit in the diaper. Another sign can be the sound of an explosion coming from their tiny little coolie and do not be fooled. This tiny bottom has tiny space in that tiny diaper, but keep in mind that what is coming out will NOT be tiny. Always give baby time to finish going to the bathroom or during your changing time, baby will continue going in the form of lava. If your second diaper isn’t prepped properly, lava all over changing table, all over baby, and possibly you. Note to self, always have a diaper and wipes ready to go. Go in ready for a war, even if it is just a battle.
This is where having a little girl may be a little easier than a little boy. Little boys have fire hoses that at any second can go off. A chill in the air, entering bath time, or after changing a diaper and attempting to put on a clean one can trigger the evacuation of potty time. The worst is when you’re trying to be cute with baby and kiss baby’s tiny tummy and without any alarms, sprinkle tinkle on you. I admit I find it hilarious that my husband still doesn’t shield away, but it never fails when he tells me he was hosed.
I can’t stress how important it is to burp. Not you mom or dad reading this, your child. Few reasons the task of burping is not optional regardless if they just fell
asleep in your arms and it’s so cute. First, unless you want the deathly screams of your child to arise you from your sleep because you thought it was super cute to watch them sleep after a feeding and decided to skip it, BURP THE KID. 9 out of 10 times, little one will continue sleeping. Second, no burp equals an evacuation of what just went in. Besides making sure you burp little one so nothing comes back up, wait about 10 minutes before laying them down so nothing comes up as well.
Of course this will come with time, but even as newborns you can get some adorable giggles from them and adorable smiles. The only time this isn’t cute is when it is in the middle of the night, maybe you’re solo until someone gets home and then you hear it. You hear it from the monitor or the crib, it is dark in your house, and the movie Chucky flashes in your head. At the same time, a horror movie commercial comes on and all bets are off. You casually laugh at yourself and hope for the best.
Gas is good, but the smell is not. You want your baby to pass gas, and at that time it also gives dad a break of getting all the heat because from baby it is cute. I admit that when my little one wakes up and I am so tired, his 4-5 farts on the changing table make me laugh uncontrollably and remind me it too shall pass. However, the only time life will remind you of how gas isn’t a good time is when you are feeding little one and you are trapped. Bottle in one hand and the other hand supporting baby means nothing to shield your nostrils from the horrific smell that yes, just came from that adorable little baby. No, adding 4 cups of baby powder will not make the smell better. That my friends will make you a lava poop cake when it is all said and done.
Let me start with there are many baby products out there stating how they will make your baby sleep through the night. First, please keep in mind that newborns wake often for a reason. Newborns need to eat and maintain a healthy weight. Second, every baby is different. Yes, Karen will tell you that her baby slept 7 hours, but that does not guarantee you that your little one will. It does get better, the zombie feeling will fade, and then when you are finally able to get 5-6 hours of sleep, you are staring at your sleeping child wondering why they aren’t awake yet. Again, do what works for you and your baby.
All and all keep in mind that every baby is different. That is the most important thing to remember. You will get advice from every person you know from the in-laws and maybe even your mailman. Listen, but do not feel obligated to stand on your head when burping the baby because Sally said it was the best thing for her baby. Enjoy the lava poop, enjoy the stinky gas, because one day they will grow up and those zombie walks at night as you rock baby to sleep will be a great memory.
Whether you work full-time, part-time, from home, or stay at home, we all know Motherhood is the biggest job any of us could’ve ever signed up for. It doesn’t matter if you carried the baby, adopted the baby, foster the child, step-parent children (or bonus parent the child as I like to call it), or just have children under your wing.… you sacrifice EVERY SINGLE DAY for another person.
Easily, just like birthdays, we can get passive about being celebrated. If you’re anything like me, it’s almost hard to let go of pride and humbleness and allow yourself to be recognized for all that you do. It’s uncomfortable. It’s like the feeling you get when there are 20 people around you singing “Happy Birthday” and you don’t really know what to do with yourself while it’s happening.
But Mother’s Day ISN’T “just another day”. You wake up every single day and give yourself freely to other little (or big) people. You nurse, you bottle feed, you make #AllTheMeals, you run errands, you run to and from sports, you try to remain a good partner to your partner, and somehow…. You try to find some tiny little moment in that 12-hour day that the kiddos are up, to keep your sanity. You worry, you pray, you think, you process, and you research any and everything about your littles. You stare at them, you laugh with them, you sing, you dance, you read, you do crafts, you play outside, and you do everything to ensure they’re as well-rounded as possible. You make your home, you clean your home, you do dishes, you do laundry, you make beds, and the cool thing is you GET to do these things. They’re hard things…. But you GET to do them. It won’t always be like this, mama. It’s a season, not a lifetime. A season that at some point you might really miss.
Up all night with a teething baby, yep.
Living on fast food for a week because the kids get out of school at 3 and have to be at practice by 5, you’ll miss that too.
So breathe them in. Hug them tighter. Look them in the eyes. Laugh at their silliness. Rock them longer. You are their world. You GET to be Mama.
For ONE DAY a year, allow yourself to be celebrated or better yet, celebrate your dang self. There’s automatically one day on the calendar every single year that is specifically designated to you being one amazing human being and giving so much of yourself on the reg. Perhaps you just want to spend the day WITH your kids…. Perhaps you want to spend the day without them (no shame, no shame). No gift? Maybe gift yourself. Maybe you snag yourself an adorable Honey from here, while they’re 25% off so you can have something new. Maybe you just want to go get your nails painted in peace or take a nap in a cold, dark, quiet, room. Maybe as a family, you go to dinner or to church and your kids make you homemade cards about how awesome you are. Sheesh, now I’m ready for Mother’s Day as I type this. However you choose to spend it, make sure to allow yourself to be celebrated. Being honored for being as great as you are, isn’t just another day.