My life before children seems like a distant memory from my current (very busy) life. Sleeping in, uninterrupted meals, and my put-together appearance were luxuries I always took for granted. I never realized how much life changes when you become a parent. Now sleeping in is 7 am, my meals are always cold, and I look like a frazzled mess with a sloppy bun most days. I always said I wouldn't be THIS mom. I had several misconceptions about mothers until I became one.
1. I will always work out...there is ALWAYS time to work out. No, there is not. When your day starts early and is filled with preparing meals, endless cleaning, a full time job, and playing with your children, there is little time left for yourself. I wish I could wake up early like I used to and squeeze in a workout before work. But right now I already wake up at 5:30 just to make it to work by 7:30. On good days (when the baby sleeps through the night and I feel rested) I can get up at 5 am and squeeze in some weight training while everyone else is still sleeping. I do miss my Saturday morning yoga classes and Sundays paddle boarding, along with evening spin classes during the week. But right now, with a toddler and infant at home, I just don't have the energy to go to these fitness classes!
2. I will always be one of those fashionable moms! I used to love buying nice clothes, and loved jewelry and makeup. I had the time to coordinate my outfits and apply my eyeliner perfectly. But now, getting out the door in the morning is a project! From changing diapers to dressing kids that don't want to be dressed, I find myself out of breath by time we are getting in the car. It's just easier to put my (unwashed) hair up in a bun and slap on some foundation and go! I try to do little things that make me feel put together, like putting on mascara or wearing a pretty accessory. Thankfully, I've found The Vintage Honey Shop's teething and nursing necklaces, they make me feel put together and are baby friendly.
3. I will still be on time for important events. I barely make it to work on time! Despite having two hours to get ready and a 3-minute commute, things just happen! It might be a crisis (like I made waffles for breakfast when my toddler wanted eggs) or maybe the hugs and kisses good-bye lasted a little longer than planned. No matter how well I try to plan and prepare, my punctuality is just not the same anymore.
4. Grocery shopping can't be that hard with kids... Ha! I am finally just getting to a point where it's not too bad bringing both kids to Costco or Target. But the first few months were tough by myself! My toddler would insist on walking, which led to him rearranging every shelf we walked past. Trying to keep in the cart led to a huge tantrum. My baby wanted to be carried, which wasn't too bad since I'm a huge fan of babywearing. But if I didn't time our outings perfectly, I would sometimes have to nurse her in the store. No easy feat with a shopping cart and a toddler!
5. I will still be social, I'll want the break from the kids. This was by far my biggest misconception. From the moment my first child was born, my social life went out the window. Not because I don't have the help, but because I never want to leave my babies. I'm gone from them 40 hours a week! Suddenly weekend brunches with my girlfriends or late nights out just don't sound as appealing as they once did. I'd rather be home with my babies, as chaotic and messy it may be!
My life has certainly changed since having children, but definitely for the better. Although I sometimes miss my days of freedom and putting more effort into my appearance, I wouldn't change it for the world. I have found ways to squeeze in some time for myself and incorporate my kids into my old habits. My cardio workouts are now walking or running with my kids in the jogging stroller. My getting-ready routine includes my toddler sitting on the counter with me while I put on makeup. I do crave my alone time often... but I know in a few years they won't want to spend as much time with me, and I will miss the days when they wanted me so badly.
written by VHS contributor// Gloria Brooks
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